One thing about dealing with anxiety is that it seems to always be lurking. When you think you are finally back on your feet and doing good, it slips a trip wire in your path. You are too busy enjoying life to notice then next thing you know you are down. That quickly sometimes.
Friday night I met up with a few friends for dinner and to see a free concert downtown. As the sun set, the crowd grew.
Still I had fun. I even dared to think how awesome it was to be in a crowd that size. How at one point not long ago, this would never happen. Felt so accomplished in dealing with the attacks and thought maybe the agoraphobic part of my life was finally over.
Course shopping the next day reminded me that it can strike back harder any time it wants. A simple bit of clothing shopping had me in full blown panic in less than 15 minutes with maybe an eighth of the size crowd. Unfortunately I didn’t have my trusty back up to call on (klonpain) so it progressed & I ended up staying inside the rest of the day exhausted & a little depressed that I was back to this. Frustrating. Still I knew I had been here before and survived.
So next time I went with a friend. (one who knew about my anxiety issues) We shopped a little, had lunch then went to another store…. where it hit again. Even with the klonapin, it hit hard. Still I was determined. We changed locations and still no good. Getting dog food was necessary though so I fought on. But I was done. Over it. Lost the fight, but I will win this war.
What happened at the pet store got me thinking though. Interaction with a seriously rude know it all cashier. As she rang up the bag of dog food (& I focused on breathing & not subcoming to the urge to dash out the door and just keep running away), she judged my purchase. Judged as she rang it up. Asked if my dog liked this food. Um… well he eats it & has yet to learn english and complain or leave any comment cards, so yeah I guess so. Then she goes on to say “You know this is the most expensive food in here? ……. and it isn’t the best.” Who asked you b*tch? nearly escaped my lips but in the attack all I wanted to do was pay & leave so I just looked at her with I’m sure a look that said “Is this happening?” She then gives me my receipt and a final “well I guess if he loves it”.
Bizarre. Just really bizarre.
Back home it pissed me off the more and more I thought about it. The former retail manager in me thought that she really needs to learn to just sell the products from the shelf. If it isn’t any good, why are they selling it there? and telling a customer it is the most expensive food in the store just makes the customer feel like they are being ripped off. Just as two dog people, I have to think she feels like she is trying to help, but really wrong approach for me. I could see it maybe if we knew each other or if I had asked for her help with something prior, but she didn’t know me. Just burned me.
Got me wondering though. Honestly I hadn’t given his food much thought since we got him & the vet suggested that brand & type. Maybe there was something to what she said.
So I went online to a couple of pug rescue groups that interact with and posed the question about what they feed their pugs. The information I got back was overwhelming but really appreciated. Lots of people knew a lot about their dogs’ diets and what brand foods were good or bad. Sadly Baxter’s food, not so great.
He has had a few issues that I assumed were just part of being a pug. Turns out he could very likely have a food allergy. Seems they are common.
Hit me that I am currently more aware of what I am eating and trying to eat healthier, why shouldn’t his diet get a revision?
So I did research and yesterday he started a higher quality food that is grain-free and more protein based, less fillers…. and joy of joys cheaper for me! His treats also are getting switched up. We will try it and see how he does. So far he LOVES the new food. Acts like I have served up a bowl of treats for his meal.
So evidently we all are getting healthier around here. The parrots better watch out! Kidding, though they are enjoying the increase in fresh fruits & veggies from my salad making.
Now if only I can get these panic attacks under control again so that I can go get the food. Will happen. I have done it before and will do it again.
Can’t wait to go back downtown for another show…. that pet shop, not so much!