So yesterday was a freak out day.
We all get them now & then. Doesn’t make them easier to deal with but at least they like all other days, only can last 24 hours.
Part of what was really bothering me was making that danged Will, Living Will, Powers of Attorneys & Health Care Power of Attorney. It was just for a class assignment, but we also notarized them and made them legit – if the student chose to. Its something I didn’t have, so why not? Its needed.
In making it, it forced me to really look at my life. What I would leave behind if today was the day.
What did I value? What made it into my will?
Funny enough, I didn’t think about my camera equipment, jewelry or anything that can be insured. What I stressed about was Baxter & the birds. They are what matters to me. No I didn’t leave them all my money (what money?) but what I did do was spell out exactly what should happen if I go prior to them. Baxter has to have a loving home where he will be a valued companion. He has been abandoned before & I don’t want him to end up back in an animal shelter. The birds, well I know what happens to parrots that end up at animal shelters. Mine will never go (or go back) there. They have to go to a rescue group that specializes in re-homing companion parrots or a sanctuary.
The other depressing part was… who to name. Makes you really see where the heart strings are…. or aren’t. Who can you trust?
Sadly family is very limited right now & the likelihood of my parents outliving me isn’t one I can count on. My sister is here & brother in law, but beyond that?
Slightly depressing? you betcha.
As much as I study and strive to do the best at whatever career I so chose, at the end, its family that is by your side. They are the ones who remember you. They are what matter most.
Which frankly scared the hell out of me.
Already know what its like to lose family and not looking forward to the declining numbers. Still it escapes me on how family is made. (yes I know the biology class how to part) How it all bonds together over the years. Two singles become the couple that develops into the start of the family. So strange and magical, yet happens daily all over the world.
I’m not at a place in my life where I am ready for kids just yet, but still scary to think that I’m also not at a place where I have that strong couples bond. Not something I can fake or force.
What I really have to come to terms with is if I’m ok with the opposite. Can I be that person who stands on their own til the end? How do I make my life worth having been through? Guess that is something I think we have to ask everyday. Treat each day as a way to bring something better into it.
Figure out how to find the inner peace and be proud of who we have been and are because really that is what matters most.
…..well as far as I can tell….
Hoping that all works itself out quickly & that I can attend classes that aren’t so close to home and depressing. Bring on the legal research & torts cases! On a positive side, it is good to think through things and may be exactly what needed to happen sooner or later. On to better days!